This post is going viral because it highlights the intense scrutiny and high expectations placed on individuals during a 'sanggyeonrye,' a crucial pre-marriage family meeting in Korea, where even seemingly minor details like chopstick skills can lead to serious relationship consequences.
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That water cup story is seriously... even a low-class butcher or slave's house in the Joseon Dynasty wouldn't do that.
If you put a cast on your right hand, you can get 80% synchronized with your left hand in just a week. Can't fix a habit? Bullshit. People around them told them to fix it for almost 30 years, but they had the mindset of 'Screw off. Why are you meddling with my chopstick skills?!' That shows their character, and that's why elders filter them out.
Chopstick skills are usually learned from parents. If the parents are 'sangnom' (low-class), the child learns like a sangnom. If the parents are normal but the child's chopstick skills are messed up? They're just a stubborn bastard.
I've seen someone at work who couldn't use chopsticks properly do that. Humans are creatures of adaptation; they can drop decades-old habits in two weeks. Just fix it. If you don't want to change, just live with that social stigma like a tattoo lol. Stubbornness ~ the loss is yours.
In adults' eyes, this is the standard: If they weren't even taught basic table manners, the most fundamental part of living, how could other family education be proper? - Breakup.
Parents aren't just looking for similar family backgrounds or economic levels ㅋㅋ. If you were a parent, wouldn't you think, 'How can someone who can't even use chopsticks properly take responsibility for anything?'
When I read stuff like this online, I don't really feel it, but if someone around me did that, I'd want to slap them so bad lol.
As long as you're not gripping chopsticks like a fist, it's not very noticeable. Nitpicking about that is more unusual. 'Jjeopjjeop-chung' (mouth-smacking) is the real problem, jjeopjjeop is truly awful.
I'm learning to swim these days... But chopstick skills are just an everyday life skill. Swimming is a skill you can only use in a pool or water, but chopstick skills are something you learn once and use anywhere for the rest of your life. If it's not perfect, why don't you think about it and improve it? I don't understand.
Okay, if you don't want to fix it, live that way. But others can also think, 'Can't even do that?'