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❤️ NatepannReal Talk· translated 1d ago

This Korean Netizen's Boyfriend Orders 4 Servings of Food on Dates – Even When She's Paying!

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TL;DR — IN KOREAN VIBES

This post is trending because it taps into the highly relatable issue of financial compatibility and communication in relationships, especially concerning everyday expenses like dining out. Many Koreans can sympathize with the awkwardness of addressing a partner's habits that lead to unexpected costs.

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어디다가 부끄러워서 말못해서 여기다가 고민상담 해봐요..어쩌다가 지금남친을 사귀게되었고 처음에 썸탈때는 이미지 관리하느라 몇번은남들먹는것처럼 적당히 밥을 먹던남친이 점점 만날수록 메뉴를 너무 많이시켜요..물론 본인이 초반에는 사려고했고 원래부터 많이먹는 대식가라고해서 먹는거가지고치사하게 굴고싶지않아서 그냥 그려러니했어요.. 근데 제가 5살연상이기도해서 남친이 많이먹는다지만 밥을 또 제가 아예 안먹는건 아니기에 적당히 번갈아 가면서 내기시작했죠..근데 제가 사는날에도 남친은 너무 메뉴를 많이 시켜요.. 기본 2이분에서 많게는 3인분4인분 사이드 음료 이렇게 혼자서 다먹는데 저는 적당히 1인분만 먹거든요. 밥값이 한끼에 기본이 5-8만원이에요..그런데 또 뭐라고 할 수 없는이유가, 막 혼자서 우걱우걱 먹거나 혼자 빨리먹거나 그런건 아니고 저랑 속도는 맞춰서 먹거나 막 자기가 다먹으려고 하진 않거든요.. 대신 메뉴를 처음부터 와장창 시켜요. 어쩔때는 제가 낼 차례에 메뉴 이것저것 시키고 남길때도 있구요..그래서 남친이 이것저것 막 시키려고하면 제가 좀 말렸어요, "일단 이거 먹어보고 배고프면 더시키자~ "하고 좋게 타이르면 하는말이," 아,,,걍 내가 낼게, 됐지?" 라고 기분나쁜투로 얘기하거든요?괜히 그럼 제가 쪼잔한 사람된것같고 그렇더라구요.그런다고 남친이 본인이 밥값을 내는날, 또 돈을 아끼거나 하진 않거든요.남친이 내는날에도 메뉴를 엄청 시키기때문에 뭐라고 할수가 없더라구요..평소에 배려심도 많고 착한 남친인데 단지 많이 먹는다는 이유로 이런생각을 하는 제가 쪼잔한걸까요?이거 제가 이해하고 만나야 되는 부분인지 도무지 갈피가 안잡힙니다.다른분들은 어떻게 생각하시나요?

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네이트 판
Nate Pann
Nate Pann is a popular anonymous online forum in Korea where people share personal dilemmas and seek advice, often leading to viral discussions.
sseom
Sseom (썸) refers to the 'something' stage in a relationship, a period of mutual interest and flirtation before a couple officially starts dating.
대식가
daesikga
Daesikga (대식가) is a Korean term for a 'big eater' or someone with a large appetite.
쪼잔하다
jjojanada
Jjojanada (쪼잔하다) is a Korean adjective meaning petty, stingy, or cheap, often used to describe someone who is overly concerned with small amounts of money or minor details.
식탐
siktam
Siktam (식탐) translates to gluttony or food greed, referring to an excessive desire for food.
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🇰🇷 KOREAN REACTIONS 10

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Wow, 50-80k KRW for one meal is insane. He's not just a big eater, he's inconsiderate.

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He sounds like he has a serious case of 'siktam.' It's not petty to worry about money, especially when he's wasting food.

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The 'I'll pay then, okay?' part is a huge red flag. He's manipulating you into feeling guilty.

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Girl, run! This isn't just about food; it's about respect and financial compatibility. Imagine future expenses.

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My ex was like this. It never gets better. You'll always feel like you're being taken advantage of.

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He's acting like a child. You're 5 years older, maybe he expects you to just cover it?

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Have a serious talk with him. If he can't understand your concerns, then he's not the one.

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It's not about being 'jjojanada.' It's about basic manners and not being wasteful. He's being rude.

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He's a 'daesikga' but that doesn't excuse his behavior. He should adjust when you're paying.

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This is a classic Nate Pann dilemma! So many people deal with partners who don't understand shared expenses.

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