My Brother-in-Law Keeps Bringing a New Girlfriend to Every Family Birthday — Am I Wrong to Be Annoyed?
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TL;DR — IN KOREAN VIBES
This post is resonating widely because it taps into a very common frustration among married Korean women who feel overburdened by in-law family obligations while receiving little respect or consideration in return. The detail about the brother-in-law never paying his share — despite being in his mid-40s — struck a nerve with readers who see it as emblematic of a broader imbalance in Korean family culture.
작년 어머님 생신에 도련님이 여자친구를 데리고 왔었어요올해 생신에도 도련님이 다른 여자친구를 데리고 온다네요저는 너무 불편한데….다른분들은 어떤지 궁금해요저희 아이가(7살) 그때 그 언니라고 물어보던데하… 다른언니라고 말해줘야하는 상황도 싫네요 ㅠㅠ추가)시댁 행사에 드는 비용은 거의 다 저희가 냅니다도련님 여자친구 데리고와도 밥값 안냅니다도련님나이 40대 중반 입니다여자친구 나이 30대 후반이구요작년에 데리고 온 여자는 15살어린 여자친구 결혼할꺼라고 데리고 왔었어요올해는 아직 만난지 100일도 안된 사람입니다제 생각은 상견례하고 결혼할 사람만 보면 되지 굳이 아직 어떻게 될지도 모르는 사람을 계속봐야하나 싶은거죠 ㅠ
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도련님
doryeonnim
The formal honorific a wife uses to address her husband's younger unmarried brother. It reflects Korea's deeply hierarchical family address system where every relative has a specific title based on gender, age, and marital status.
상견례
sanggyeonrye
A formal meeting between the families of two people who are planning to get married — essentially the Korean equivalent of an official 'meet the parents' event that signals serious marriage intent. It's a major milestone, not a casual introduction.
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