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My Sister-in-Law Moved In and Her Insane Picky Eating Is Driving Me to the Edge

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Posts about the stress of living with or catering to a 시누이 (husband's sister) are a perennial flashpoint on Korean women's communities, but this one hit especially hard because of the sheer specificity of the food restrictions combined with the husband's passive pressure — a dynamic many Korean wives immediately recognized as their own reality.

A post on Nate Pann — one of Korea's most popular community forums for candid life venting — is going viral after a stay-at-home wife laid out, in exhausting detail, just how impossible it is to cook for her college-aged sister-in-law (시누이, *shinu-i*) who moved in nearby and basically adopted their home as a free meal plan.

The original poster (OP) says she's genuinely fine with most of it. Doing the laundry? The washing machine handles it anyway. Cleaning? The robot vacuum does the heavy lifting. The sister-in-law coming home late at night? OP's a deep sleeper, so whatever. And since she's a full-time homemaker, cooking and housework are just part of her day. She was ready to be generous.

But then came the food list. And it is *a list*.

No seafood of any kind — no fish, no shrimp, no squid, no clams, no raw fish (sashimi/hoe). The reason? She doesn't like the 'mushy texture.' Okay, fine. But then: no meat cooked in broth or soup. That rules out budae-jjigae (the beloved Korean army stew loaded with sausage, ham, and ramen), because apparently even *ham* floating in liquid is unacceptable. No beans. No carrots. No cucumber. No eggplant. If there's even a single piece of carrot in fried rice, she won't eat it.

OP says she's been so worn down by the constant accommodations that she's started automatically removing the sister-in-law's banned ingredients from every dish she makes — almost like she's been gaslit into cooking around one person's entire personality. And to top it off? The sister-in-law can't cook at all. Like, at all. She reportedly can't even crack an egg properly to make a fried egg. OP says this is not a joke.

The kicker that's really setting Korean internet on fire: if the sister-in-law skips a meal, the *husband* visibly gets in a bad mood. So OP is trapped — cook an impossible meal for a picky adult who contributes nothing to the kitchen, or deal with a sulking husband. The comments are not holding back.

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시누이
shinu-i
A husband's sister. In Korean family dynamics, the relationship between a wife and her husband's sister (시누이) is historically fraught — the sister-in-law is often seen as an insider of the husband's family who can do no wrong, while the wife is expected to serve and accommodate her.
부대찌개
budae-jjigae
Literally 'army base stew,' a popular Korean comfort food that originated near U.S. military bases after the Korean War, made with a mix of kimchi, ramen noodles, Spam, hot dogs, and American cheese in a spicy broth. It's a beloved staple that almost every Korean household makes.
hoe
Korean-style raw fish or seafood, similar to Japanese sashimi. It's a common and beloved dish in Korea, especially in coastal regions, and refusing to eat it is considered quite unusual by Korean standards.
네이트 판
Nate Pann
One of Korea's most popular online community boards, known for candid, often emotionally charged posts about everyday life, relationships, and social issues — especially popular among Korean women for venting about family and marriage.
전업주부
full-time homemaker
전업주부 (jeoneopjubu) literally means 'full-time housewife/homemaker.' In Korea, there is still a cultural expectation that a stay-at-home spouse is responsible for all domestic labor, which is often used to justify piling additional burdens — like cooking for extended family — onto them without compensation or acknowledgment.
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